Out of the Desert
“A person who has only known the desert has no good reason to miss the
trees” ~Me, just now
I say that to say
that you never know what you DIDN’T have before until you actually have it.
A recent VERY candid conversation with a tiny friend
of mine under one of her FB posts led to my discussion of how I handled the end of my last
two prior relationships. I don’t
understand stress eating, except I do.
With me, I'd stress drink, and anyone who has been inebriated before
understands “intoxicated bored eating.”
Throw in a bit of depression and work-related stress and you don’t leave
the house except for work and supplies.
In my comment, I explained how I had gone down through this to the point
where it caused me an illness that I have since shaken, and I have since lost all of
the weight I gained to boot. Lifestyle changes and such, I hope y'all are reading about some of it on Tuesdays.
I credited my current lady with helping me back from it, and
my tiny friend asked me what I'd learned from those previous and how they applied to
current productivity in my current.
And that is where
we are today.
One thing that stuck out in my response was at the top of
this post. “You tend to not know what
you didn’t have until you actually have it sometimes. Support, honesty and someone who is after
your common goal and not just their own are among those things. Once you see them in your face, you work to
nurture them. Except it doesn’t feel
like work.”
Stewing over the
past is something I do. I look at what I
should have seen, think of what I should have said and stress over what I
should have done. Luckily, I am blessed
with a good eye for detail and a large part of hindsight being 20/20 is that
one can see more of the other side of a situation than they ever could on the
first pass through. By that, I mean that
the normal human “thing” in the moment as it is happening is listening to
respond and not to understand.
Revisiting something in memory offers a different perspective, even if
that perspective is “shit, I should have seen that!”
That’s both a blessing and a lesson if you allow it to be. Take that with you, KEEP that with you. Fine tune it for what you will find yourself up against later on down the road. Be better, make NEW mistakes, don’t go repeating the old ones.
That’s both a blessing and a lesson if you allow it to be. Take that with you, KEEP that with you. Fine tune it for what you will find yourself up against later on down the road. Be better, make NEW mistakes, don’t go repeating the old ones.
But get out of
that damned desert.
Recognize familiar situations you aren’t cool with and fix them, even if “fixing” means running the fuck up out of them. Recognize the situations you wish you had seen to nurture earlier on and DO that shit.
Recognize familiar situations you aren’t cool with and fix them, even if “fixing” means running the fuck up out of them. Recognize the situations you wish you had seen to nurture earlier on and DO that shit.
I guess one could say she is making me better.
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